Gulongzhong Trip – Rebuffed by Myth and History

Lately everyone here has been feeling a bit worn down. It has been a long, hot, difficult summer of training. The end, though in sight, still seems dauntingly distant.

So, as a rare treat, Master canceled Wednesday performance and took a group of us to a scenic spot in nearby Xiangyang, a park called Gulongzhong. Gulongzhong is on the map because it was the home, 1900 years ago, of a man who 14th century literature would place right in the heart of the Chinese imagination, a man named Zhugeliang.

Personally, this was an exciting trip for me because I used to live across the street from Gulongzhong, on the campus of Xiangfan University, where I taught English for a year in 2008-2009. I spent a fair amount of time wandering the beautiful grounds of the park, but I never felt that I really knew much about Zhugeliang and the history of the place. I thought that, as well as a chance to visit my old stomping grounds, this trip might teach me some of the history I was missing.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t really the case. We had an endearingly struggling tour guide who managed to translate a few bits of information for us, but these were merely recitations of fairly common knowledge I had picked up just living nearby. Zhugeliang lived on the mountain for 10 years, from the age of 17 through 27. He studied philosophy and military strategy, invented practical devices such as an improved flour mill, and generally stayed in quiet seclusion. His meditations ended when Liu Bei, the leader of one of the three groups consolidating power after the fall of the Han Dynasty, approached him and requested his help. Twice Liu Bei asked, and twice Zhugeliang declined, but on the third invitation, Zhugeliang accepted and took his place in history as the wisest man to shape the Three Kingdoms Period of Chinese history.

Trying to penetrate past this superficial layer of culture has been daunting for me on many subjects, not just Zhugeliang. When I ask friends, or that tour guide, to explain his significance, there seems to be a disconnect in the conversation. Why is he important, why do you like him? Well, he…(see above). Yes, but can you tell me more? Why was he considered so wise? Such a great man? Here the conversation stalls. It is as if his significance is self-evident to everyone but me. I can sense that he resonates deeply in my Chinese friends, but though I agree he is a cool guy, I can’t summon the same emotional reaction I see in them.

My only theory as to why I have this difficulty is that Zhugeliang, even his whole era, exists in the Chinese imagination as a complex of myth, history, cultural and national identity, and modern pop culture. Much of his story comes not from historical record but from a historical novel written more than 1000 years after his death. But this story has been retold so often, most recently in film and television, that legend and fact have blended to make their subjects into cultural giants. As an outsider, someone who has only paddled in the shallows of the deep sea of Chinese culture (And, admittedly, has not read even a translation of Romance of the Three Kingdoms), Zhugeliang’s story might never resonate with me. I imagine it might be like trying to explain George Washington or Abraham Lincoln to a Chinese person. You can tell the story, but the way these men and their stories thread their way through our cultural and national identity, tied into our very system of values, is difficult for a cultural outsider to ever grasp.

Life Skills: Finding Ways To Make Teamwork A Part of Everyday In Our Life

Teaching character and life skills to students

When we work together our team is strong, we accomplish much more, and the team is successful.  Our most important team we are on is our family.  How can we practice teamwork at home?  Working together to clean up, do the dishes, work in the yard.  Almost every activity around the house can include the whole family.  Think about how each member of the family will feel when everyone chips in to help.   It certainly is not up to just one person in the family to be responsible for all the cleaning.

Children can also be included as they get older in planning outings for the family.  This feeling of belonging and being a part of a team will help them withstand peer pressure in school and in life, as well as be willing to include others in their activities.

When teamwork is learned at home, children will be more willing to assist teachers and other students in school.  It may be helping to clean the classroom, or helping other students learn the lesson of the day.  In fact as children develop teamwork they are also developing empathy.  They will be more willing to stand up to anyone who may bully another student or to welcome a new student into the school.  Sometimes new students can have a hard time feeling like they fit in and those who practice teamwork can be of great assistance.

Finally in the community, teamwork is so important to accomplish goals that none of us could do on our own.  It is this type of teamwork that Balanced Life Skills is hoping to find in our Bully Prevention Partners website.  It will only be all of us working together that we can accomplish the our goal of a culture of peace in the classroom for all students.

Life Skills: Teamwork Teaches Children To Think About The Needs of Others

Teaching character and life skills to students

In our society even our youngest of children end up on teams involving sports or other activity.  Too often the question we ask is, “How did you do?” or we say, “You did really well today!”  If we want to teach our children about teamwork though we may want to change the words we use, and start very early teaching them about teams and how we can accomplish much bigger goals together than we can as just one person.

All of us including children have been on teams.  Our most important team is our family. When we teach our children that the family is the most important team we are on, we will be helping them to see things from others point of view, empathy. When they go to school they will start to see relationships as not just about themselves, but also get to feel what others might be feeling.  When we take them into the community and there are cleanup projects or feeding the less fortunate, they will begin to understand how together we can make a difference far beyond what we can do as individuals.

What would happen if at home we all made a mess?  Do we expect that one person would be responsible for picking up and cleaning the mess?  If we as a family work together to get things cleaned up, we are teaching our children that teamwork is an important characteristic to our family.  Yes sometimes it takes more time than doing it ourselves, but the lesson of teamwork, empathy, fairness and learning how to share responsibility is a valuable lesson for later in life.

Life Skills: Teamwork Discussions Will Focus on Family and Schools

Teaching character and life skills to students

Our children, just like ourselves, find that we are on a variety of teams.  It may be a school, sports, service project, or for adults we may be on multiple teams at work.  Whenever we find that we are with a group of people trying to achieve a common goal, it requires that we have teamwork.

While all of these outside activities are important to demonstrate the qualities of good teamwork, our inner circle of our family is the most important.  In fact it is here in the family that we first lay the groundwork for teamwork, and this is where we should have our foundation and strongest ties.

Teaching the quality of teamwork to our children with our example and words have a far reaching affect on their relationships later when they get in school and have to deal with social issues and behaviors of classmates, teachers and teams that they may be taking part in.  During this month we will look at what it means to be a teammate, why some teams are successful and others not, how we can contribute to teams we are on and how and why we should speak up as an individual on a team.

Finally I will be tying all of this in to how teaching teamwork to our children has an affect on bullying in school.  Follow us here or come in to the school and enjoy taking classes with our team of dedicated instructors.

Life Skills: Teamwork – Definition

Teaching character and life skills to students

 

Each month we define and discuss a word of character development and life skill with all of our students.

This month the word is Teamwork and will be defined this way.

Young students: Teamwork means: “Let’s work together to get it done!”

Older students: Teamwork means: Working together as a group to achieve a common goal.

Here are the worksheets for our students:

Teamwork worksheet TT

Teamwork Worksheet 5/6

Teamwork worksheet 7-12

Teen / Adult Teamwork worksheet

If you would like to see how we will deal with this subject with our students please follow our discussions here during the month of July or come in and TRY A CLASS.