Riding a Bike in Winter

T-shirt the guys at work gave me
T-shirt the guys at work gave me

When I am home in Maryland in the winter, I use my bike to get around a lot. As much as I can, I like to get two short bike rides in every day, to and from work. This is not always possible and often when it is possible it remains impractical, but I really like it.

I like it because it is hard, and I find that it is important to make a place in my day to do something difficult, and something that is difficult in an all-absorbing way. When I am actually at work, I do many difficult tasks during the day but they never require much of my body – I am at a computer most of the time. Riding my bike demands physical, mental, and emotional attention. I am in motion, I am dodging cars, I am staying calm in the face of bad drivers. I am dealing with the elements: cold most mornings in January, but wind and rain on the bad days. These things are unpleasant but within my ability to overcome, and there is an emotional cleansing I find when I do overcome them.

I was thinking of this the other day. I had been having a grumpy day – my emotions were not as they should have been, and I couldn’t seem to straighten them out. Word came down the pipe here at the school that we needed to wear our kungfu best and be at afternoon practice half an hour early. There was no reason provided, as is often the case here in China, but the order came from our older brother who got it from the school organizer who we must assume got it from someone he couldn’t say “no” to.

Afternoon training wore on, and nothing happened. By 5:30 we had been training for three hours, we were missing dinner at the school, we were tired, hungry, and uncomfortable in our full uniforms in the hot weather. We still had no idea what was happening, but by 6:00 an important official appeared with retinue for a tour of the temple, and we demonstrated some of our kungfu.

As we were finally leaving the temple, hungry and tired, I realized that I was actually in the best mood I had been in all day – my grumpiness was gone. Somewhere in the process of dealing with actual, concrete adversity that made demands on my body, mind, and emotions, I had cleaned out the emotional grime that had built up in me.

We train kungfu constantly here, and sometimes we lose sight of it in the everyday repetition. It becomes an activity that we do with our body but not with the rest of us. But I think a main purpose of our training is to learn to put ourselves deliberately and completely into whatever task we are set, so that it in turn replenishes us and cleans out the little cares from our lives. I do it this with kungfu, and I do this on my bike in January.

Life Skills: Manners – The Definition

Teaching Children Life Skills

Each month we will discuss a life skill with all of our students.  This month the word is Manners.  This word will be defined in the following ways for our students.

 

Young students:  Manners: “I do kind things and use polite words!”

Older students:  Manners means: Words and actions that show kindness and respect for others.

Each age group has a worksheet that parents can use to continue the discussion at home with their children, and one for adults to allow them to think more deeply about the skill and how it applies to them.  Would you like to receive the worksheet?  Stop by our studio at 133 Gibralter Avenue in Annapolis, MD and tell us the age of your child.  We will give you a worksheet and invite you to watch Mr. Joe discuss the word with the students in class.  You can also follow our discussions here on this website.

If you would like to become a member of Balanced Life Skills, come TRY CLASSES FOR FREE.   We are not your typical martial arts school, in fact we are an education center, working with our students on physical skills along with character.  We are building confidence in each child.  Balanced Life Skills takes part in community service and encourages each student to do the same.  You are welcomed to come in and talk to the parents that are here and watch the class for the age group you are interested in.

Black Belt Test 2013 is this Sunday May 5 at 3 PM

black beltOn Sunday May 5 at 3 PM you are invited to share in the celebration of our 3 black belt candidates who will complete their testing with a demonstration. In the last couple of months in addition to all of the physical preparations the three candidates completed the following:

1. Kyle Pinder engaged some of his classmates and created a program for a group of individuals who have MS. He showed them how they could use martial arts to get some positive movement in their routine. It was met with appreciation from all of the participants, as they not only enjoyed the different kind of movement, but also the skill and patience of each of the students who worked with them.

2. Mark Paalman has put together a program on Downs Syndrome as a beginning of an awareness education work we are creating for our school. His goal is to help all of our students understand the scientific side of some common differences – that in the end we can see and feel that no matter our differences, as humans we all have goals and dreams. This is a great follow up to the work done last year by Audrey on autism.

3. Jen Selby completed a 6 week program on art education, Art in Mind. This visual education in art and the conversations that resulted in what you see created opportunity for creative thinking. In addition it helped each of the students to appreciate that all of us see things in different ways. All of this culminated in a unbelievable display and evening meeting the artist and seeing all of the work they put in on Museum Night. There was a great turnout and demand for the program to be repeated.

Please come and support the candidates this Sunday afternoon and watch them do forms, kicks, self defense, break boards and talk about their journey. The event will be held at Summit School – right across from Camp Letts. Their test begins at 11AM and you may come at any time, but the please be there by 3 PM for the final demonstration.

Positive Attitude – Who do you surround yourself with?

When we change our thoughts and work on improving how we feel with how we talk to ourselves or changing our physiology we can shift our attitude from negative to a positive one. We may find though that no matter how much we are attempting to make these kind of changes that we are not getting the results we hoped for. There is one more aspect that may be one of the most influential on our attitude.

Who are we surrounding ourselves with? Social-Circle.jpg.scaled500-89456_481x230The people we surround ourselves with, spend our time with, affect our attitude and whether it is negative or positive. Negative people – those that are “looking” or “finding” all that is wrong or could be wrong, those that are angry at the world, complain constantly or tend to focus on the things that they do not like will affect us in a negative way. 

We can be affected the same way by the media we watch on television, video games we play, books and magazines we read, anything that we feed our mind and souls. If what we feed ourselves is negative we soon begin to take on those same negative way, only being able to see what is wrong and negative about ourselves and situation.

Why is this true? I will post the reason this happens and it may surprise you, in a post tomorrow.

Sausages are like Laws

SL373197Last weekend I had intended to post a new blog, but it didn’t happen. Why? Sausages, that’s why.

How many of you really LOVE a good hotdog? Before I came to China, hotdogs were very low on my list of favorite foods. At a cookout, I would pick a hamburger over a hotdog 7 times out of 10, perhaps. But everything changes when we are separated from the loving embrace of our mother culture. When I was home a few months ago, and had opportunity to eat whatever western food I wanted, there was no single mouthful of food that so filled me with joy as a hotdog, on a bun, with ketchup, mustard, and relish.

So I decided China needed hotdogs. Maybe part of what makes hotdogs so enticing to me is the fact that there are hotdog imposters everywhere here. These things, called huotui (fire legs) look exactly like hotdogs should look but lack any of the flavor of their ballpark cousins. They are lengths of flavorless processed ham — even spam is better. But one sees them and is duped, thinking, “I could really go for a hotdog right now.”

So I set out to make some hotdogs. First, I looked at recipes online. They all looked simple enough. I needed sausage casings, meat, certain spices — “I can do this,” I thought to myself. So I poked around town, asked the cook at the school questions, and after a few weeks of dead ends, false starts, and re-thinkings, I eventually believed I had a workable plan. Continue reading “Sausages are like Laws”

Creating a Positive Attitude – Ask “What is so great about this?”

questions.jpgA positive attitude is great for our health, both mental and physical. However we can have times in our life that it seems very difficult to be or stay positive. Things may not seem to be going our way. A negative attitude may creep in on us or we may have others around us who are filling us with negative thoughts.

Our attitude is made up of our thoughts and feelings. Max Planck, Nobel Prize winning physicist once said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” I would add to that my own experience and maybe yours too, that several years down the road from my roughest patches, I saw that the events that seemed so negative at the time became some very positive experiences. There are so many of these and one day I will share some of them.

One thing I can say is that when times are frustrating and seem to be so dark, if we were to ask ourselves the question, What is so great about this?, that we may be able to ‘change the way we look at things”. If you have a hard time answering that question, follow it up with, If I did know what was great about this situation, what would it be? When we sincerely ask ourselves a question our brain will help us find an answer.  That answer may just help us regain our Positive Attitude.