When a martial arts school talks about perseverance you might think that it would be about doing push ups without stopping or some other kind of physical activity. While learning not to quit, even if you get tired, is one way of learning about perseverance and reaching goals, developing perseverance in ourselves and our children is one of the factors that will determine future success.
The ability to stick to our goals until they are reached along with the effort and hard work required, has more to do with accomplishments than does getting into a prestigious university. Children do not learn this all by themselves. As parents we have a great influence on what our children will value, whether it will be effort and hard work or in getting the perfect grade or winning.
Think about what the effects on ourselves or our children if we were not afraid of making a mistake, and saw that if we stuck with something that we could make a success of our efforts and reach our goals. Unfortunately too many parents only ask the questions about ‘what is the grade you got’, ‘did you win’? Imagine if the effort and perseverance a child or ourselves put into a project or goal was just as important to us as the end product of what grade or score we ended up with?
During this month we will discuss what it means to keep going and not quit, when is it reasonable to allow a child to quit an activity, what gets in the way of persevering, what keeps us going and what the benefits are of not giving up. This month is not going to be just about not quitting on our push ups and sit ups, it will be about setting goals for ourselves and finding a way to reach them – even if it takes more effort than we thought.