How to Reduce Stress Part 3: Learning to Relax

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I have a t-shirt that I bought in one of the islands in the Caribbean that says, “It is good to do nothing and then to rest”.  Just as it is important for us to have good time management skills and to work hard, it is also just as necessary to practice calming our mind and being still.  For many it is very hard just to be still, to not be doing anything, to just relax.  Relaxation is about being still physically while being alert mentally.  Knowing how to ‘relax’ is one way of allowing your body and mind to rest, a very deep rest, which in turn allows you to build the energy you need for the rest of your activities.

Imagine I ask you to hold yourself up on a chin up bar and hold it as tight and long as you possibly can.  In a very short period of time you start to get tired and it becomes more difficult.  Soon your muscles are aching and there seems to be no power in your hands or arm to continue to hold.  Finally it becomes impossible – you let go and you feel great relief.  If we did the same experiment and I asked you to hold yourself up on a chin up bar for 10 seconds and then you got a short break and then held yourself  for 10 seconds with a break – you would be able to continue that routine for a much longer time, and the reason is you allowed yourself to relax your muscles.

If we never take the time to calm our mind and body, fatigue can set in quickly and everyday activities will seem harder for us and soon we simply do not have the energy to do even the simple things.  This kind of relaxing is not the same as watching TV, napping, chatting online or even taking a walk.  It can be accomplished in these ways though.

*Focused breathing: this is an exercise in you being in control of your breathing and learning to slow it down when you are stressed or anxious about something.
*Progressive muscle relaxation: This is a process of both visualizing your muscles and progressively tensing and relaxing them individually.  When you are done your body will feel very heavy and calm and your breathing will be slowed.
*Sitting with natural breathing: in this exercise you do not control your breathing, simply sit very still and find your natural breath.  Use simple counting, ‘one’ for each breath, until you get to 10 and then start over.

Each of these exercises require practice, but once you learn how to use them and have a routine of practice, whenever you are feeling overwhelmed with stress, you will be able to go back to them and find a calm place.  While none of these practices will eliminate stress from your life, they will help you find a calm spot in your self, that if practiced daily help you to deal with what may otherwise seem like the impossible.
*in upcoming articles I will discuss these methods in more detail

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