This morning a group of Balanced Life Skills parents and students got together and prepared lunches for the clients of the LIghthouse Shelter. We finished so fast that when some folks arrived the work was already done and the lunches were delivered. The spirit of giving of our time, talents and resources is strong in our school. In talked about charity in the month of August and are following it up with discussions on Leadership in September.
Leadership is when we take an idea or a cause that we are interested in and engage others to achieve a common goal. I was so happy that some of the volunteers this morning suggested that we should help out with lunches for those in need more often. I believe that we will be able to do accomplish this goal with the action of our students and parents.
If you would like to share in this work, email Balanced Life Skills and lets see if we can schedule a time, once a month, to assist those in our community who need our help. Thanks to our helpers this morning for the quick work you made of our project this morning.
Each month we define and discuss a word of character development with all of our students. This month the word is Sportsmanship. It will be defined this way.
Young students: Sportsmanship means “I am fair and kind whether I win or lose.”
Older students: Sportsmanship means: Respecting the rules and the spirit of competition.
If you would like to see how we will deal with this subject with our students please follow our discussions here during the month of May.
Have you ever noticed that the word please and thank, sometimes come out of mouths almost like “well I have to say it” sort of attitude. In fact in our efforts to teach ‘manners’ to our children they may say it just to please us parents, without the spirit of the words behind them. On the other side of that, children may begin to believe that the word “please” is indeed a ‘magic’ word that will work for anything that they want. (As parents sometimes we tell them that)
No wonder they soon start using it as a magic word. It goes something like this. We are in a store and they see a toy that they really want and they ask for it. “Mom will you buy this toy for me?” and just as quickly out of our mouths comes the words ” No, not today.” Suddenly they remember that you told them “What’s the magic word?” one time and so they try it. “Please can you buy it for me? Please, Please, Please, Please….” until we cannot deal with it any more and we as parents do one of two things. We either get angry and snap at them or we give in and buy it for them.
I told a group of students the other day, that this was disrepectful of their parents and that “”Please” does not trump the word NO”. When a child begins to believe that the word please is a magic word instead of being a word that we use to show respect for the other person they may begin demanding with it. Yes the way we say something, or the way we use our words, is just as important as what we say. What a child is saying to a parent in effect is – I don’t believe that your word NO is what you really mean and if I say magic words enough or strong enough, you will give in and I will get what I want.
As we teach our children about manners it is really the ultimate form of empathy, a characteristic we have talked about before. The use of the words please, thank you, your welcome, are all ways of being considerate, respectful and kind to each other.
Camaraderie means: “We’re all so happy to be good friends!”
Older students, teens and adults:
Camaraderie means: In the spirit of friendship and goodwill.