Courage: trying new things

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Lets be honest with ourselves and I will put myself out there now and be honest in a public way.  Most of us like being where we are comfortable.  Now it is hard to hear but when we are talking about trying new things or doing things differently than we are used to, it can be difficult to get out of our ‘comfort zone’.  It works just like our heat and air conditioner thermostat at home works.  When we get to warm the a/c comes on, when we get to cold the heat comes on.  We want to feel perfectly comfortable.

Unfortunately though, if we are to grow in the level of performance in our world, we cannot continue to adjust the internal thermostat so we can get back into our comfort zone.  Now my personal honesty.  I am not in my most comfortable place in a new place with a big crowd of people I do not know.  I freeze up, I just know that I do not have anything to say that is of interest to anyone and I am just as happy to sit on the side and let others enjoy themselves.  In the mean time though I want so badly to be a part of the lively conversations.  Whew I am glad I got that out.

In fact that is one  of the most important things that we can do.  Say our fear out loud and recognize it for what it is.  It is simply a belief that we have developed for ourselves that we recreate, and then confirm by doing the same thing over and over again.  So how do we get out of comfort zone and make the changes we want to make so badly?

We must change our behavior.  We must allow ourselves to practice what we fear the most.  Put on your best positive attitude, change your physiology, bring your energy level and enthusiasm up and and make the conscious decision to not allow past beliefs and fears to determine who you are or want to be.  Our fear of rejection, failure or losing face is keeping us from being who we really want to be. 

There are very few things left in the world that have not already been done or accomplished.  Find someone who has done what you want to do and ask them how they did it and then do what they did and I am sure that you will have similar results – if you keep at it.  Change the way you talk to yourself.  The negative things that we say to ourselves, we would never say to a friend.  Treat yourself like you would treat your friends.

Both children and adults can use their courage to try new things and meet new people or any other thing that is on the list of, this is out of my comfort zone.  As parents we have the challenge and the responsibility to help our kids to take risks even when it is scary.  Role playing and creating safe situations for them to practice courage are good ways to let them see that they can recreate the images in their head and move forward.  As parents though lets set the example for them and be sure to talk to them about when we are not comfortable and how we are using courage to create a better life for ourselves.