Have you ever seen the parent that brags about their child and pushes them so hard to be the best at their school or group that you sometimes wonder if the parent is living out their fantasy through the child? Many times the child does what is expected of them but deep down inside is not really interested in this pursuit at the same level that the parent is pushing so hard for.
Being a great leader or parent is not about making yourself look good. It is about empowering your children to make good choices and to choose and follow their own dreams and goals. Yes we want our children to do well and yes we are very proud of them when they do have accomplishments. But those accomplishments are not ours as a parent – but rather should be the result of our willingness to believe in them and give them the opportunities to grow.
As a parent we should be setting the example in continued growth, goal setting and improving ourselves in our own interests. We should be willing to make the sacrifices required for our children to be their best at whatever their goals are, helping them to recognize the results and consequences that their choices mean. In business your willingness to empower others because you believe in them will make you larger. In your family empowering your teammates will bring you a great amount of joy and happiness as each member becomes their best in what they want to pursue.
The concept that we are focusing on this month is “Focus”. Interesting is the fact that many of us focus on the things that we fear or the things that we do not want to happen. I will give you an example that is very easy to relate to. Have you ever driven down the road and had something on the side of the road grab your attention. As you looked at it you were so intrigued that when you did look up you found that the car had moved toward that side of the road. In fact many professional driving instructors will tell you that if you lose control of your car on the road – DO NOT look at the tree you want to avoid – you will surely hit it if you do.
Now there is an interesting place to begin. If you focus on the things that you do want and the goals we want to reach it is just that much easier to reach them. I know that is very hard to do. One reason it is so hard is because of the amount of information we are bombarded with on a daily basis. I recently read that we receive over 3000 marketing messages a day that we need to process. Did you know that is as many as our grandparents received in a whole year. No wonder it is hard to do. So how will we do this and just as important how will we teach our children to focus.
Over the next month we will work on that here at Balanced Life Skills. If you want to learn about this you will want to follow this blog. In addition FOCUS is one of the concepts that we work on in our school every class. Reinforce what you see us do in class at home and you will see improvement in your child’s focus.