Leadership discussion: who is qualified?

Dear Parents,

All of us want our children to be leaders. Yet there are some widely held beliefs that simply are not true, unless we allow them to be so. In the words of Mel Martinez, who was the Secretary of HUD in the early part of this decade, “Leadership is not for the few, it’s for everyone….We should operate on the assumption that every child has the capacity for leadership in one way or another.”

I would agree with his statement despite a widely held belief that leadership is a rare gift that only a select few have. That leadership is for those blessed with a quality called charisma and even attractiveness. Some also falsely believe that leadership should be coming from the top of an organization only.

It is easy to see that a bit of good looks and charisma will not hurt, there have been many leaders that were not gifted that way. Think of Abraham Lincoln, Mother Theresa and Gandhi, all of whom demonstrated great leadership under some very trying circumstances that had nothing to do with charisma or attractiveness. Neither is leadership about wielding power, as most people do not like to be bossed around.

There are all kinds of leaders. Some are loud and some are quiet. And I believe that anyone can become a leader, they can use their own personality and style and simply be themselves and still move others to action. So we will focus on this month the things that make leaders – leaders.

As teachers / parents our job is to give our children the training, the support, the encouragement, the confidence, the motivation, and the opportunities to lead. Then we should set them loose and let them lead. You are going to be amazed at what they do with their abilities and what they can achieve. More important with every success they will be strengthened to step up and lead again and again.

One of our highest goals here at Balanced Life Skills is to create leaders of our students. Not just leaders on the mat helping others learn martial arts skills, but leaders in their community. We have seen some outstanding examples of this with our students and their projects. There is even more to come.

The definitions of leadership are as follows:
Young students: “I make great choices so follow me!”
Older students/teens/adults: Inspiring people into action to achieve a common goal.

During the four weeks of September we will be discussing the following:
Week 1: What is a leader, what does a leader do, and why do we need them?
Week 2: Leadership Skills: Group goals and taking initiative
Week 3: Leadership Skills: Listening and communicating effectively
Week 4: Leadership Skills: Weighing pros and cons and taking responsibility

In the months to come we will be discussing

October: Responsibility November: Patience December: Friendship

As always, one of the best ways to teach and reinforce Leadership is by modeling strength of character ourselves. Discuss the ways you show leadership skills each day and point out the ways your children do the same. As parents, employees, bosses, and mentors, what kinds of leadership skills must you use each day?

We thank you for your support. You are pivotal in helping to make our school one of the best Martial Arts and personal development centers in the world. Please be sure to get your Leadership worksheets on the curriculum pages for your students age group at the new student site BLS Students!  You will need to register before getting your worksheets.

 

Leadership: Definition

Each month we define and discuss a word of character development with all of our students.  This month the word is Leadership.  It will be defined this way.

Young students:  Leadership means: “I make great choices so follow me!”

Older students:  Leadership means:  Inspiring people into action to achieve a common goal.

If you would like to see how we will deal with this subject with our students please follow our discussions here during the month of September.



BLS helping Lighthouse Shelter

This morning a group of Balanced Life Skills parents and students got together and prepared lunches for the clients of the LIghthouse Shelter.  We finished so fast that when some folks arrived the work was already done and the lunches were delivered.  The spirit of giving of our time, talents and resources is strong in our school.  In talked about charity in the month of August and are following it up with discussions on Leadership in September. 

Leadership is when we take an idea or a cause that we are interested in and engage others to achieve a common goal.   I was so happy that some of the volunteers this morning suggested that we should help out with lunches for those in need more often.  I believe that we will be able to do accomplish this goal with the action of our students and parents. 

If you would like to share in this work, email Balanced Life Skills and lets see if we can schedule a time, once a month, to assist those in our community who need our help.  Thanks to our helpers this morning for the quick work you made of our project this morning.

Is medication the answer?

I have been looking at the information available in regard to dangerous trends facing children today.  One of them as we reported earlier is depression.  In a response to that the Food and Drug  Administration reports in September 2009 that more than 500,000 children and adolescents in America are now taking antipsychotic drugs.  This includes not only teens, but more shocking, is the growing use of drugs in tens of thousands of preschoolers

From 2000 to 2007 there has been a doubling of the prescriptions of antipsychotic drugs for privately insured 2-5 year olds, with only 40% of them having received proper mental health assessments.  Even more disturbing, children from lower income situations were far more likely to be given a prescription than having counseling for the child and the whole family – due to the difference in the cost of the two ways of approaching these issues.

Here is a link to the story found in the NY Times this week about one such boy and the story of 5 years of diagnosis, drugs, therapy and the end result. 

“Families sometimes feel the need for a quick fix,” Dr. Gleason, a Columbia medical graduate who had led a team that wrote 2007 practice guidelines for psychopharmacological treatment of very young children, said. “That’s often the prescription pad. But I’m concerned that when a child sees someone who prescribes but doesn’t do therapy, they’re closing the door that can make longer-lasting change.”

At the end of September, I will be releasing a report on the research I have been doing on the 6 Most Dangerous Trends Facing our Children Today.   I look forward to sharing it with parent groups in our community.  For more information please feel free to contact Joe Van Deuren at Balanced Life Skills.

Parents do you know what this means?

Do you know what this means: %*@:-( ?   Or this: ~~#ZZZZZZ ?

If you do not then you are not a teen that is using drugs or alchohol.  Parents check out this article and understand the importance of communication with your teens.

http://bit.ly/d87NKw

There are some great resources in this article that you can refer to that will help decipher the codes being used in messaging.

Can pre-school children be depressed?

I have been working on a report of the 6 most dangerous trends facing our children today.  One of the most stunning pieces of research I have come across is that the fasting growing age groups for depression are pre-schoolers.  Then last week this article came out in the NY Times.  Here is the link to the article.

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/29/magazine/29preschool-t.html?_r=1&emc=eta1

In the coming weeks I will be ready to present the findings of the work I have been doing to parent groups.  Depression is just one of the trends that have surprised me.  This report will include not just the problems but some of the solutions too.