When we talk about self control, one of the hardest moments is when we are being criticized by another person. Especially if the other person is someone close to us, a family member in particular. Have you ever noticed how difficult it can be when a husband or wife, mother or father criticizes? It may even trigger something inside of us from a previous event that makes it difficult to maintain our self control. Here is a 5 step process to maintain self control and not have even more damage control to do later in the relationship. Be willing to
There are three ways of responding to any situation; passively, assertively, aggressively. The way we respond requires self control and has a direct affect on our own self esteem. Our ability to control how we respond demonstrates the respect we have ourselves and others. For parents of young children we want them to learn to stand up for themselves in a manner that they can have respect for themselves and their requests while demonstrating respect for those that they are speaking to. So lets say that our child is on the playground and a situation arises that is aggressive behavior
Taking time to think through our choices, not doing the first thing that pops into our head is a lot easier for us to say than for us or our children to do. When I ask our students if they have ever said something or done something that after it was done or said – they wish they could get it back, because they knew it was not a good choice, virtually all of them said it had happened to them before. Our behavior and words are ours and only us as individuals can control our behavior. Unfortunately when our
Each month we discuss a life skill with all of our students. This month the word is Self Control and will be defined in the following ways for our students. Young students: ”I stop and think before I act!” Older students: Taking the time to think through choices rather than acting on impulse. Each age group has a worksheet that parents can use to continue the discussion at home with their children, and one for adults to allow them to think more deeply about the life skill and how it applies to them. Would you like to receive
Lets look at how we can use our self control when we are tempted by something that may be appealing to us. From the simple point of view if we look at something in the store or at something that belongs to someone else, while we may want it or something like it we would not steal it. We know that taking something that does not belong to us, no matter how much we want it would be the wrong thing to do and would have very bad consequences. We know that when that trust has been broken between individuals it is very hard to get back and using our self control is how we can maintain a high level of trust with our parents, friends, teachers, and employees / employers.